Neuroscience Tips to Stop Being a “Slave to Your Emotions” and Free Yourself from Destructive Thoughts

Spanish neurocoach, mentor and writer Isabel Trueba starting his new book, emotional junkieswith a clear and impressive image: a man finds an open butterfly cocoon and, to help free it, decides to cut it open, not knowing that in doing so he is robbing the future butterfly of the essential path it must take. move into your new stage and spread your beautiful wings.

For Trueba, There are processes that are “difficult and slow but necessary”. The author writes: “Life often throws us obstacles. They make us go through difficult holes that seem impossible to get out of, they put people next to us that are difficult to handle. Life gives us a little bit of everything The quickest or easiest solution is not always the best.. Only through patience, trust, perseverance and equanimity will the time come when we will understand what the purpose of this difficult moment was.”

Edited by Alienta, emotional junkies accompanies the reader in “the path to self-discovery which reveals the deep connection between our thoughts and emotions.” Through neuroscience and the emotional intelligenceseeks to “transform the automatic pilots of the mind that prevent us from enjoying life.”

“Will you continue to be a slave to your emotions, or will you become the driver of your destiny?” asks the author, who seeks to “silence the critical voice that sabotages us and turn it into a powerful ally.”

I would like to tell you a story. Some time ago, a man found a butterfly cocoon that appeared to be open and went to look at it. He saw how the butterfly managed to get out of the chrysalis and was thrilled. Time passed, but the butterfly’s progress was very, very slow…

In two hours, barely a few millimeters of body passed through the small opening. The man thought, “Poor butterfly, the hole is so small it will take forever to get out.” So he decided to help her and cut the hole with scissors to make it bigger.

The butterfly came out quickly. The man watched her with delight, waiting for her to spread her wings and take off. But it did not happen. The butterfly was left limp with its wings stuck together and was never able to fly. This is because the effort he had to make to get out through the small hole was what he needed to get blood to his wings and fly. It was an arduous, slow process, but a necessary one.. In his eagerness to help her and avoid her pain, the man was unaware that he was undermining her ability to develop.

Life often throws us obstacles. They make us go through difficult holes that seem impossible to get out of, they put people next to us that are difficult to handle. Life gives us a little bit of everything, and the quickest or easiest solution isn’t always the best. Only through patience, trust, perseverance and equanimity will the time come when we will understand what the purpose of this difficult moment was. Because we don’t always get what we want, but with trust we eventually get everything we need.

I asked for courage and life confronted me with fear.

I asked for strength and life brought me obstacles that I had to overcome.

I asked for love and life brought me people who helped me.

I asked for joy and life brought me moments of sadness that I cherish.

I asked for peace and life brought me storms to be quiet.

I never got what I asked for, but I never lacked anything.

This story stuck in my mind years ago. Then I went through painful personal grief, sought professional reinvention, and hoped the universe would right itself at my feet. However, at some point I understood It was not life that had to submit to my will, but rather it was me who had the power to bring order to my chaos. interior to show your best version and enjoy life. I was the one who chose to take challenges and take them as learning opportunities, my responsibility was to evolve and take off again, spread my wings to get out of the tunnel.

Today I want to thank you for reading these pages, because I have to admit that I doubted more than once that anyone would ever do this. It took me over three years to sit down and start writing, from the time the idea of ​​doing it started forming in my head. I have never been a literary person and this book was a great challenge for me. I didn’t think I was capable. But My desire to be better and to help others be better far outweighed my fears. and limiting beliefs.

We all experience times when our self-confidence fades. All of us on our journey through life hope that he treats us well. We hope that bad times will never come, we avoid them, or we look for people to save us from the chaos. But reality is like sailing the ocean: a journey full of unpredictable surprises. We navigate uncertainty between moments of calm and terrible storms that threaten to destroy us. But in the end we survived. Because we are infinitely more powerful than we think. And those limiting beliefs, those thoughts that attack you, represent only a piece of the ocean that you can see from your boat, but they do not represent the whole reality full of possibilities. You can focus your attention on the storm as it engulfs you and convince yourself that you will end up at the bottom of the sea because you might not be looking for the sun that is waiting for you just a few meters away. And what happens when you can’t see any further? What do you stop believing in?.

And life is also built from the stories we tell ourselves about the experiences we move through. As human beings, we interpret reality through our thoughts, based on what we observe in the present, our memories of the past, and our fear of the unknown future. This internal dialogue has the ability to make us feel powerful or powerless. Happy or unhappy. When you feel powerful, you take the initiative to weather the storms, but when you feel powerless, you are most likely to freeze and let go. The game of life is about exploring the realities that empower you and give you the opportunity to overcome.

Thanks to the strength I was training at that time and thanks the desire to be better and live better, we will meet here today. If I had let the darkness of the storm sweep me away, this book would never have seen the light of day. If I had waited for someone to try to help me get out of my shell instead of doing my personal work, I wouldn’t be able to capture my insights in this book and share them with you now.

I will go into more depth about these topics later, but once again I want to thank you for your trust and also congratulate you from the bottom of my heart for devoting your time to your personal growth and development. In the vast ocean, I distinguish two types of people: those who let themselves be carried away by the currents, resigned and wait for someone to save them, and those who bravely unfurl the sails, take the helm and continue to search for the possibility that the sea offers them. the horizon. The fact that you are reading this book confirms that you have already decided to raise the sails and learn to sail. You have decided not to stare at the sky hoping that the sun will always shine. You chose prepare to survive storms so that they do not prevent you from reaching your goal. Congratulations, indeed.